Sunday, December 14, 2014

Some Tips For My Brothers When Going To Family Court.

I was having a conversation with a friend on FB and I want to share this with the fellas who are going through family court to deal with their children's mothers. Please remember these things, if you need some help hit me up. 
I have held a position as a Life Coach helping men who were mandated by the courts for supervised family visits with their children. I worked with the social workers and courts first hand.  I personally have walked into family court 6 times and did well each time.  




1. The Courts don't you or your situation. All they know is who filed the papers and what they said they needed the courts assistance with.
2. How you act and dress in court goes a long way with the judge. Being polite and respectful is a must. Remember these judges see clowns who act an ass all day, everyday. Don't be one.
3. Please know what rights are allowed to you. Be prepared to ask qualifying questions to make sure you are clear on your next move. The judge will answer questions concerning the Law and your rights.
4. Don't speak or attempt to "grill" your child's mother in or out of the courtroom. It's about you and the judge. You are there to get this worked out for your children's sake.
5. Yes your going to have to pay, if you didn't work out the numbers with the mother before court you're going to have to deal with their calculations. In NY its 17.5% of your net gross for 1 child, 25% for 2, 30% for 3 or more. Don't complain about your bills to the judge. Ask what arrangements could be made if you can't make your payment.
6. Make Your Payments Regardless. This is about your children. Don't look at it as you're paying the mother. If your children are not getting what they need, you bring it up in court not to the mother.
7. You might have to trade 21 years for the next 60 plus with your children, stop stressing since you created the children with the mother/mothers. Do what you have to make sure you are there for your child/ren
8. Keep the Lord in your life to help control your anger and remember silence is a powerful weapon to a disrespectful mouth.

These are some things which have helped me with my life and court situations. If you haven't read "From Gigolo to Jesus" you can get an idea of the man I was in creating 6 children with 5 mothers before Tiff and Kayelle. 

Friday, December 5, 2014

Justice should be the norm.


I am sad right now, I am fighting back the fear because of my faith. I am refusing to allow my anger to cloud my thoughts and actions. But there is a point when you have to look upward and ask "Lord Why?" but until the Lord graces me with an answer I am going to do the best I can to teach, heal, and protect those I can. I refuse to look towards man for my salvation. My prayers will have to suffice. 

Read this definition and please explain how can any of us dealing with the current madness and increasing deaths think the word is real!!!! 
"JUSTICE"
noun
1. just behavior or treatment.
"a concern for justice, peace, and genuine respect for people"
synonyms: fairness, justness, fair play, fair-mindedness, equity, even handedness, impartiality, objectivity, neutrality, disinterestedness, honesty, righteousness, morals, morality
"I appealed to his sense of justice"

Have we as a people been granted this at any point???

Romans 12:19 (KJV)
19 Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.


Wednesday, November 26, 2014

We can complain about Mike Brown or we can make changes to the system.

Time for action. Words aren't enough.
From all the posts I've been reading on social media it seems like brothers and sister are tired. OK. Then its time for action.
Search out and find those groups in your community who have established themselves as beacons of light and hope. Not sure who they are get out and ask. People know and will tell you. Go and meet with the directors of these groups / programs and ask what their plan is. They will have a PLAN, A CHARTER, A MISSION STATEMENT, SOMETHING which will explain what they are attempting to do with their organization in the community.
NOW HERE IS THE DIFFICULT PART FOR SOME OF YOU READING >>> JOIN THEIR ORGANIZATION TO DONATE TIME or DONATE MONEY TO HELP THEM DO WHAT THEY DO!!. YES YOU WON'T BE PAID, YES YOU'LL ONLY GET A TAX REDUCTION ON THE MONEY DONATED BUT YOU'll BE HELPING THE CAUSE, YOU'LL BE JOINING THE FIGHT FOR THE CHANGES YOU SAY YOU WANT. Like Mahatma Gandhi said "Be The Change You Want To See In The World"
Here is another idea which many may not want to hear
"Start Your Own Group and Create Your Own Plan Of Action"
This requires guts and staying power because you'll quickly find out there isn't going to be much support or funds. But if we're as angry as many of our post suggest then the fuel to keep going is in place.
If none of what I said works for you, here is one of the tried and true ways to make a difference and its battle tested,,,
Contact your child's principal (have no children do to the local school in your neighbor and do it for someone else's child) donate time helping in the school, giving them one more body to help make a difference.
Nothing I typed is an overnight fix. But do nothing and it won't fix itself. So we can complain or we can do.
Now let me address those who are reading and thinking,, "So K. L. What Do You DO????? HMMMMMM
Well, I walk into schools everyday trying to reach our sons and daughters. I study their music, videos and lifestyle to work on counter points alternatives to life choices which may end them up dead,  I write books with represent the man I am attempt to live my life as, I started a company Bravin Publishing which promotes other authors who have similar view points. We've even given authors deals which helps make them money for their words while taking less than what I could so they can make the greater profit. I stand with other brothers and sisters in their causes to get things done, and finally, I stand up on Social Media and Bravely Praise the Lord I serve as I try to make difference in every word I type. I hope that helps answer those questions. But this is not about me. So, let's make a pledge right here right now,,
If your serious about going forward and being a difference maker,
Say This Out-loud:
I WILL STOP COMPLAINING ABOUT THE SYSTEM TODAY AND GO FORWARD. I AM GOING TO CHANGE THE SYSTEM BY DOING SOMETHING POSITIVE TO COUNTER WHAT I KNOW AND SEE ARE WRONG. I AM GOING TO REACH OUT TO SOMEONE TODAY AND ASSIST THEM IN THEIR PUSH FOR CHANGE OR START THE SEEDS TO MY OWN GROUP TODAY. I WILL WORK ON, THEN CREATE MY PLAN OF ACTION. EITHER WAY I KNOW ITS TIME FOR SOME ACTION AND I WILL HOLD MYSELF AND THOSE AROUND ME ACCOUNTABLE.


In 1966 The Black Panthers Created their plan. You'll 50 years ago some of the same problems existed for them. They were destroyed for their attempts to change the world. Who's going to pick the ball up and continue to be the opposition to what we see???

"If you're going to do nothing, then say nothing." K. L. Belvin 2014

My Thoughts On the Mike Brown Case.

I'm going to offer this about the Mike Brown situation and leave it where I place the other racial dividing issues,

 "OK We Got The Bad News, So Now What Are We Going To Do?"

As folks of color we don't support, respect, nor police our own communities. We live by stupid codes of "Don't Snitch or Get Rich Or Die Trying" all while purchasing and supporting many of the same families of America who's wealth came from their forefathers who enslaved us.

We attend parties with more frequency then our children's school meetings or events. We don't think to give our money to entrepreneurs' of color. We create, promote, celebrate, and sell death in our music and videos. While, allowing the constant streams of videos of our children beating and harming each other for fun to play in our homes or smart phones. Yet we wild out when someone guns down one of ours.

We've taught them it's OK to do so in how we treat each other.
So miss me with your sad complaints of the White Man this and the White Man that. When our children don't respect themselves and that came from Black men and women having more video games than books in their homes.

When you're really ready to attack the problems with lack of quality education, our disintegrating communities, poor use of resources, lack of true media representation, and character reorganization for men or women of color hit me up. Until then continue your complaining until late Thursday night when after celebrating a holiday which isn't really a holiday (ask my native American Brothers and Sisters) you'll go out to stand on line for BLACK FRIDAY SAVINGS ON ITEMS NOT MADE BY FOLKS OF COLOR TO INCREASE THE WEALTH OF THE VERY FOLKS YOUR COMPLAINING ABOUT TODAY.

We keep looking to others to solve our problems when the answers are us taking care of our own.
"If you have a dog, I must have a dog. If you have a rifle, I must have a rifle. If you have club, I must have a club. This is equality." Malcolm X"

Thursday, October 30, 2014

Lack of Support

Good morning, knee is feeling a little better. Pain not as bad..

Today's observation, not a new one:
I see so many men and women of color boldly making moves to be entrepreneurs. Taking there own money to invest in their talents. Only to be force to quit or return to work because of lack of support from those who look exactly like them.
I see the same thing with parents and others around Education. They act as if having multiple degrees makes for a negative situation. Yet we consistently call out for assistance or change in our failing neighborhoods.
This is sad, when we are so blind, fearful and hateful we don't lift up those we broke away from the norms and are offering change. I am really not sure we can change this. As a man who owns his on business and who has attempted to give (note I said give, with no charge) others a chance to make money with their own books or who has attempted to get folks to support thew books I've done only to be told no. But these same folks will line up around a corner for new Jays, I phones or the latest Chipotle, Its just sad when you can't count on those we look like you.


But alas Malcolm X said "Because you look like me don't make you my brother."

Chris Rock spoke on this mindset.. Please enjoy the video. ***Please excuse the language*** http://youtu.be/aSaAytiB2bM