Thursday, April 10, 2014

Reality and Relationships April 10th Show. New Format.

Tonight's show, I went solo... New Format. 

  •  How It Felt To Become A Dad For The 7th Time, But The 1st Time In Love? 
  • Men, Why Do We Leave Our Women All Alone To Have Our Children Without US? 
  • Ladies, How Do You Feel About Him Not Being There When The Baby Was Born? 





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Sunday, April 6, 2014

"The Power of the Tongue."



I pray this helps someone. "The Power of the Tongue."

Here on the internet and in person, folks feel they can say whatever they want. Really? Why even acknowledge the Lord if you feel this way? If He gives us rules to follow, why do so many of feel we can say whatever we want and there is no problem or penalty to pay?
Does this sound like a Father with a plan? One who would allow His children to feel they can say anything they want to anyone? The Lord sent James and others to speak us on the power of the tongue. We know how damaging the spoken and written word can be those we love and those we don't. Yet we refuse to try to control ourselves as if everything is going to be OK on its own.
You can't call yourself a believer in a Lord or Heavenly Father who gives you rules to live by and would then allow you to break them without any acknowledgment  of breaking the rules or honest atonement. Would you simply allow "I'm Sorry" to be the choice of disciplinary action in your home if you came in and found your child speaking in an adult and/or negative fashion?

Look at verse James 3:6-12
James tells us how damaging the tongue is and how hard it would be to bring it under control. However, we can't say anything we want and feel its OK. Even when there is no one around, for the Lord sees and knows.
Now this isn't something you can change in a day but it is something to work on once you admit to yourself you're doing wrong. If not, when you face the Lord, try to convince Him why you needed to say the things you did and see how that works for you. No one is perfect but knowingly doing something wrong is not a mistake.
I can't say anything to those who aren't believers since they don't profess to the love the Lord. However, those who call themselves Christians and believers of the Faith, have got to govern themselves accordingly or answer to the Lord not other Christians. So your query is not with me but between you and the Lord on your actions. I am working mine out with Him myself.

Here is the complete scripture to study if you want.

James 3
New International Version (NIV)

Taming the Tongue

3 Not many of you should become teachers, my fellow believers, because you know that we who teach will be judged more strictly. 2 We all stumble in many ways. Anyone who is never at fault in what they say is perfect, able to keep their whole body in check.

3 When we put bits into the mouths of horses to make them obey us, we can turn the whole animal. 4 Or take ships as an example. Although they are so large and are driven by strong winds, they are steered by a very small rudder wherever the pilot wants to go. 5 Likewise, the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark. 6 The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole body, sets the whole course of one’s life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell.

7 All kinds of animals, birds, reptiles and sea creatures are being tamed and have been tamed by mankind, 8 but no human being can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison.

9 With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse human beings, who have been made in God’s likeness. 10 Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers and sisters, this should not be. 11 Can both fresh water and salt water flow from the same spring? 12 My brothers and sisters, can a fig tree bear olives, or a grapevine bear figs? Neither can a salt spring produce fresh water.

Two Kinds of Wisdom

13 Who is wise and understanding among you? Let them show it by their good life, by deeds done in the humility that comes from wisdom. 14 But if you harbor bitter envy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast about it or deny the truth. 15 Such “wisdom” does not come down from heaven but is earthly, unspiritual, demonic. 16 For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice.

I pray this helps someone who reads,, Feel free to share with any and everyone who might need to read it. Just give proper credit to my words. God Bless.

17 But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere. 18 Peacemakers who sow in peace reap a harvest of righteousness.

Monday, March 24, 2014

Sisters, I am Sorry!


Up late on guard,,, Listening out for Kayelle, watching the wife sleep (she's getting some well needed rest), about to wash the dishes and clean out the bottles to have them on deck for the morning.


I asked the Lord for clarity and with the birth of Kayelle I got it,,, Brothers, we have to find a way to do better towards our sisters. We have to find a way to protect them, care for them and uplift them through Love and Respect. Watching Tiff trying to move around after the delivery surgery, seeing what's needed to get Kayelle calm when she's hungry or just cranky, dealing with her bodily changes to be ready to nurse. It made me wonder deeply about the sisters who have no help. Thinking about the younger sisters doing all by themselves.
Part of what I do in working with young men and older men, is helping them transform into better well rounded men. Finding the real men insider themselves, that mission is deeper now. We have to fix this problem. Its nothing new, but I am going to do more where I can.
When Tiff and I created the Making Marriage Cool Again movement it was to change this very situation I am speaking on. I made a promise to myself and I am going to keep it >>>>The Making Marriage Cool Again Handbook , which will be designed to go along with the seminar will be completed by July 1. I am going to have it with me when I travel this summer. I am going to save some lives and relationships where I can. These are too precious of moments to be spent alone.
Ladies I can only say I'm sorry for my brothers' actions. I know its not much. I was one of them for a long time. But, I'll do what I can to fix this and to help. I know it may seem impossible but my God is powerful God. I'll lean on him to help me get the brothers to see the whole picture. If the Lord can save and fix a trifling man like the man I was, He can do the same for the brothers out here who act as if they don't care about you are their ladies or their children.


If there are brothers out there who you think need my help please direct them to me,,, Or have them read my book "From Gigolo to Jesus" to understand my own transformation. To get a signed copy or to contact me stop by www.BravinPublishing.com 

Sunday, March 23, 2014

Faith Without Works... God Knows The Truth

Got a word today...

Church was great. The pastor gave me something to consider. The Lord placed something on my spirit so I'll share this:

Many on Facebook and other social networks, love to call on the Lord's name in their posts. Making sure those on their pages know they "Love the Lord" so they say. Then you'll see pictures, videos, or comments which make you wonder to the contrary. The Lord already knows the truth even when those of us who see these people don't. Having Faith is not enough. What "works" in God's eyes can you lean on to show you are true to the Faith you claim and deserve the salvation given by the Lord through his graces?

Is faith alone enough?? NO!!!

James 2:14 (NIV)
Faith and Deeds
14 What good is it, my brothers and sisters, if someone claims to have faith but has no deeds? Can such faith save them? 15 Suppose a brother or a sister is without clothes and daily food. 16 If one of you says to them, “Go in peace; keep warm and well fed,” but does nothing about their physical needs, what good is it? 17 In the same way, faith by itself, if it is not accompanied by action, is dead.

The Lord will separate all those who did the works required for salvation.

Matthew 25:31- 46 (NIV)
The Sheep and the Goats

31 “When the Son of Man comes in his glory, and all the angels with him, he will sit on his glorious throne. 32 All the nations will be gathered before him, and he will separate the people one from another as a shepherd separates the sheep from the goats. 33 He will put the sheep on his right and the goats on his left.

34 “Then the King will say to those on his right, ‘Come, you who are blessed by my Father; take your inheritance, the kingdom prepared for you since the creation of the world. 35 For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in, 36 I needed clothes and you clothed me, I was sick and you looked after me, I was in prison and you came to visit me.’

37 “Then the righteous will answer him, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you something to drink? 38 When did we see you a stranger and invite you in, or needing clothes and clothe you? 39 When did we see you sick or in prison and go to visit you?’

40 “The King will reply, ‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.’

41 “Then he will say to those on his left, ‘Depart from me, you who are cursed, into the eternal fire prepared for the devil and his angels. 42 For I was hungry and you gave me nothing to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me nothing to drink, 43 I was a stranger and you did not invite me in, I needed clothes and you did not clothe me, I was sick and in prison and you did not look after me.’

44 “They also will answer, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry or thirsty or a stranger or needing clothes or sick or in prison, and did not help you?’

45 “He will reply, ‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did not do for one of the least of these, you did not do for me.’

46 “Then they will go away to eternal punishment, but the righteous to eternal life.”

You see we can fool every person on our pages and on other social network site,, but you can hide from Jesus and the Lord. Please don't rely solely on Faith. It is a part of gaining salvation but you must put the work in all you do, myself included. I pray this helps someone.

God Bless.

Sunday, March 9, 2014

Hearing the Lord while Fasting.


Saturday, I started a 40 day "fast" recommended by a good friend and fellow Christian Kizzi Hogan. Now I know when Christian's fast it's to give them a chance to lean on the Lord when dealing with whatever they have given up as well as strengthening their spiritual being. For me I gave up red meats, sweets, bread, carbonated drinks and fried foods. Kizzi and others who agreed are giving up the same, expect no meat at all. Under Dr. orders I had to keep poultry and fish on as meat for the proteins needed. I had decided that during the 40 days to help me take my mind off anything I might be craving I was going to ask the Lord for clarity on a few things. I have been feeling a stirring in my spirit concerning my writing, my job and moving from New York. I know the Lord works in his time and will answer what he chooses but I have learned when you make moves towards him, He makes moves toward you as it is written:

James 4:8 (NIV)
8 Come near to God and he will come near to you. Wash your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded

He will also grant you clarity in matters which will help you serve him better as a Christian. Today in church I went seeking certain answers as I mentioned, however, as the pastor began to speak I felt the need to write. So I wrote everything that came to mind as the pastor delivered his message. The scripture the pastor was preaching on was:

James 1:19-27
New International Version (NIV)
Listening and Doing
19 My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, 20 because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires. 21 Therefore, get rid of all moral filth and the evil that is so prevalent and humbly accept the word planted in you, which can save you.
22 Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says. 23 Anyone who listens to the word but does not do what it says is like someone who looks at his face in a mirror24 and, after looking at himself, goes away and immediately forgets what he looks like. 25 But whoever looks intently into the perfect law that gives freedom, and continues in it—not forgetting what they have heard, but doing it—they will be blessed in what they do.
26 Those who consider themselves religious and yet do not keep a tight rein on their tongues deceive themselves, and their religion is worthless. 27 Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world.

So my pen was working and the pastors message on looking in the mirror and being honest with yourself rang true to what I was feeling. The Lord was placing another message in my heart to share with others as well as for me to meditate on when reflecting on the day and things I carried with me into church today. 

Here were my thoughts. I am not sure who it's for besides myself. I pray this helps someone reading:

Living by the Laws of God (The Ten Commandments) will free us from sin and grant us tremendous spiritual wealth from the Lord when we get to Heaven. This is compared to the physical and emotional stimulation which we perceive as wealth here on earth. The Father has given us examples of the fruits of the spirit needed to keep us lined up to receive the spiritual treasures offered to everyone who is willing to expect Jesus as their savior. 

Galatians 5:22-23
New International Version (NIV)
22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,23 gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.

God knew we couldn't get to Heaven alone, so he sent Jesus to be the model of what we need to be for us to make it to Heaven. The Lord also sent the Holy Spirit to guide us to God himself and the treasure he is offering. This is why when we allow our Holy Spirit to guide us great things happen or we are protected from things, sometimes ourselves. 

God's laws (The 10 Commandments) leads us to push past the physical  and emotional rewards on Earth. If we can hold on to the spiritual force of God (Faith) we can overcome anything placed in our way. God gave his children laws to follow the same as any parent would for their own children. God wants to see us grow to be successful in life and to come and spend eternity wanting for nothing, while having everything you could dream of. 

This word may seem rudimental to many who are in the Kingdom but we have to understand as brothers and sisters we have to hold each other up when needed. As well as helping those who don't understand what God is asking for if they are to be granted salvation from their sin. My fasting is to open my Holy Spirit up for direct information from the Father. I know The Lord wants me in Heaven with him  and Jesus. I am going to do what I can to make sure my name is in the Book of Life when my time comes.

I pray this helps someone reading. Please share with other, just make sure my name is added to it as you pass it on. 

Take Care and God Bless. 

K. L. Belvin