My friend allows you into places most people are scared to share.
Well I'll let her explain. Without further ado, allow me to introduce to you my friend and felling author
Julia Press Simmons...
Hello everyone. My name is Julia Press Simmons.
Welcome to the sixth stop on my “F*ck It, I’m Fat,” Blog Tour!
In this memoir I tell about some of the intimate, most personal events in my life. I discuss rape, abortion, divorce and the food that got me through it all. A sister friend read the book and then, with horror and sorrow etched all over her face, asked me how could I put my life out there. “This is way too personal!”
I shrugged and smiled, “I’m hoping the truth will set me free.”
F*ck It, I’m Fat: My Weight Loss Journey is a look at the events in my life that triggered my food addiction. MY BIG AND SEXY HAS BECOME BIG AND DEADLY Well, actually, it has been deadly for quite some time. I was diagnosed with diabetes in 2005, but I’ve been fat-as-fuck since forever. I’ve lived a hard life, and food has always been my source of comfort. Whenever I’d go through something, anything, I’d eat, and eat, and eat. It didn’t matter if I was full, I didn’t eat to get full, I ate to feel better and it never ever worked. Dear Readers, I must have started this book hundreds of times over the last few years, but could never bring myself to complete it until now. I’m no longer afraid to face the truth. I’m 34 years old and I have a wicked food addiction and a serious lack of impulse control. They say the first step on the road to recovery is admitting you have a problem. Whoop, here it is.
I attempt to outline the major turning points of my addiction and couple it with what I’ve learned about my disease and proper eating habits over the years. Each chapter contains a snapshot of my life and a lesson on positive food choices, healthy eating habits, and life style changes. This book is not an admission of defeat, it’s a testimony. I constantly struggle with my weight and illness mostly in silence or with dry wit, however I can’t any longer. I’m writing this book for therapeutic purposes. I wanted to spell it out for myself and others who struggle with obesity. This is me trying to get it right!
HOW TO BUILD SELF-ESTEEM
In the simplest definition self-esteem is how you feel about you. And, the sad truth is I never really liked myself much. I was never pretty enough, or smart enough, or thin enough to suit me. I never admitted this fact out-loud, but it showed through my actions and choices. I allowed people to hurt me, and then I started hurting myself. I became depressed and lazy. I stopped taking care of me. I stopped caring. And then a wonderful thing happened, I got a job with a group of educated, beautiful, and talented women. They talked to me. They showed me the beauty of womanhood, and the effects of self-love.
The following are a few steps that I am taking to build and maintain my self-esteem that I found on the mayoclinic website It has helped me on my journey and I hope that it helps you. http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/self-esteem/MH00129
● Use hopeful statements. Treat yourself with kindness and encouragement. Pessimism can be a self-fulfilling prophecy. For example, if you think your presentation isn't going to go well, you might indeed stumble through it. Try telling yourself things such as, "Even though it's tough, I can handle this situation."
● Forgive yourself. Everyone makes mistakes — and mistakes aren't permanent reflections on you as a person. They're isolated moments in time. Tell yourself, "I made a mistake, but that doesn't make me a bad person."
● Avoid 'should' and 'must' statements. If you find that your thoughts are full of these words, you might be putting unreasonable demands on yourself — or on others. Removing these words from your thoughts can lead to more realistic expectations.
● Focus on the positive. Think about the good parts of your life. Remind yourself of things that have gone well recently. Consider the skills you've used to cope with challenging situations.
● Relabel upsetting thoughts. You don't need to react negatively to negative thoughts. Instead, think of negative thoughts as signals to try new, healthy patterns. Ask yourself, "What can I think and do to make this less stressful?"
● Encourage yourself. Give yourself credit for making positive changes. For example, "My presentation might not have been perfect, but my colleagues asked questions and remained engaged — which means that I accomplished my goal."
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Julia Press Simmons is the CEO of QMB Publishing and the author of five novels; Strawberry Mansion, Begonia Brown, Violet, Fornication Volume One & Two. She currently has a miniseries called Dawn of Destruction running on Amazon and BN.com .She is an award winning Spoken Word Artist, and Playwright. She has recently been nominated for poet of the year by AAMBC. Her play “Down There” was selected by the Shades of Black Festival Emerging Playwright’s Series in Nashville, Tenn. “Down There” also received a staged reading by the African American Playwriting Exchange in New York City. She lives in Pennsylvania with her family. Julia is currently working on her next novel, SM4: A Hustler’s Heart.
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