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REAL WOMEN TELL THE TRUTH, “F*ck It, I’m Fat,” Blog Tour! Author and Survivor Julia Press Simmons
Hello Family and Friends. Allow me to introduce you to a strong woman, a fellow author and a sister in the fight against their weight. This woman has a powerful story about where her struggle with weight started. As an author she is always on her grind but this project is different because its about her life.
My friend allows you into places most people are scared to share.
Well I'll let her explain. Without further ado, allow me to introduce to you my friend and felling author
Julia Press Simmons...
everyone. My name is Julia Press Simmons.
the sixth stop on my “F*ck It, I’m Fat,” Blog Tour!
In this memoir I tell about some of
the intimate, most personal events in my life. I discuss rape, abortion,
divorce and the food that got me through it all. A sister friend read the book
and then, with horror and sorrow etched all over her face, asked me how could I
put my life out there. “This is way too personal!”
I shrugged and smiled, “I’m hoping
the truth will set me free.”
F*ck It, I’m Fat: My Weight Loss
Journey is a look at the events in my life that triggered my food addiction. MY
BIG AND SEXY HAS BECOME BIG AND DEADLY Well, actually, it has been deadly for
quite some time. I was diagnosed with diabetes in 2005, but I’ve been
fat-as-fuck since forever. I’ve lived a hard life, and food has always been my
source of comfort. Whenever I’d go through something, anything, I’d eat, and
eat, and eat. It didn’t matter if I was full, I didn’t eat to get full, I ate
to feel better and it never ever worked. Dear Readers, I must have started this
book hundreds of times over the last few years, but could never bring myself to
complete it until now. I’m no longer afraid to face the truth. I’m 34 years old
and I have a wicked food addiction and a serious lack of impulse control. They
say the first step on the road to recovery is admitting you have a problem.
Whoop, here it is.
I attempt to outline the major
turning points of my addiction and couple it with what I’ve learned about my
disease and proper eating habits over the years. Each chapter contains a
snapshot of my life and a lesson on positive food choices, healthy eating
habits, and life style changes. This book is not an admission of defeat, it’s a
testimony. I constantly struggle with my weight and illness mostly in silence
or with dry wit, however I can’t any longer. I’m writing this book for
therapeutic purposes. I wanted to spell it out for myself and others who
struggle with obesity. This is me trying to get it right!
TO BUILD SELF-ESTEEM
In the simplest definition
self-esteem is how you feel about you. And, the sad truth is I never really
liked myself much. I was never pretty enough, or smart enough, or thin enough
to suit me. I never admitted this fact out-loud, but it showed through my
actions and choices. I allowed people to hurt me, and then I started hurting
myself. I became depressed and lazy. I stopped taking care of me. I stopped
caring. And then a wonderful thing happened, I got a job with a group of
educated, beautiful, and talented women. They talked to me. They showed me the
beauty of womanhood, and the effects of self-love.
●Use hopeful statements. Treat
yourself with kindness and encouragement. Pessimism can be a self-fulfilling
prophecy. For example, if you think your presentation isn't going to go well,
you might indeed stumble through it. Try telling yourself things such as,
"Even though it's tough, I can handle this situation."
●Forgive yourself. Everyone
makes mistakes — and mistakes aren't permanent reflections on you as a person.
They're isolated moments in time. Tell yourself, "I made a mistake, but
that doesn't make me a bad person."
●Avoid 'should' and 'must' statements. If you
find that your thoughts are full of these words, you might be putting
unreasonable demands on yourself — or on others. Removing these words from your
thoughts can lead to more realistic expectations.
●Focus on the positive. Think
about the good parts of your life. Remind yourself of things that have gone
well recently. Consider the skills you've used to cope with challenging
●Relabel upsetting thoughts. You
don't need to react negatively to negative thoughts. Instead, think of negative
thoughts as signals to try new, healthy patterns. Ask yourself, "What can
I think and do to make this less stressful?"
●Encourage yourself. Give
yourself credit for making positive changes. For example, "My presentation
might not have been perfect, but my colleagues asked questions and remained
engaged — which means that I accomplished my goal."
Julia Press Simmons is the CEO of
QMB Publishing and the author of five novels; Strawberry Mansion, Begonia
Brown, Violet, Fornication Volume One & Two. She currently has a miniseries
called Dawn of Destruction running on Amazon and BN.com
.She is an award winning Spoken Word Artist, and Playwright. She has recently
been nominated for poet of the year by AAMBC. Her play “Down There” was
selected by the Shades of Black Festival Emerging Playwright’s Series in
Nashville, Tenn. “Down There” also received a staged reading by the African
American Playwriting Exchange in New York City. She lives in Pennsylvania with
her family. Julia is currently working on her next novel, SM4: A Hustler’s