This video touches on something I have been fighting with inside myself for a while. Watch it first before reading my post.
You see it makes sense to me know, when the Lord said "The Wages of Sin Is Death" Romans 6:23
The Lord never said which type of death. There is of course physical death. Which is what most of us fear and use as our understanding to this scripture. However, I have come to learn there are other deaths we don't consider. There is Social death, Spiritual Death, Martial Death and Financial Death. When you consider it, name any sin and there is some form of death connected to it. This is why I have tried to push myself to do so many things to pay off debts and get my finances where I need them. Paying child support is never something I complain about since my children are worth every penny I pay.
However when I make a personal decision I have to consider the amounts of money I would make or give up so I don't alter their lives and that is the problem. When money is required to create a life of happiness it means you may have to give up certain financial ventures you currently are a part of. This can and will leave you in the dark trying to decided which is the most important path to take. For me there is no decision, my financial responsibilities have to be dealt with first and happiness has to wait; even if the void becomes an abyss. I know that sounds sad but I lived such a selfish life in the past I don't want to take advantage of anyone else going forward.
As an educator of 17 years, everyday I walk into school, I attempt to push children to be greater than they think they can be. I want them to be better than where I am currently. I am train them to learn from my mistakes and successes. Now some would say Mr. Belvin, you're a good teacher, you have 3 college degrees, you own a business, you have a lovely wife, you've written 2 books and been a part of 3 others things have to be great for you? You have to be happy? My response is I am blessed and content. I respect the blessings and enjoy what the Lord has given me. However, I am not where I want to be and each accomplishment is in place as a bridge to my goal of actual happiness. I speak the truth to the students, if I don't I risk leading them down the same roads I once traveled. In my book "From Gigolo to Jesus" I speak about my past life as a misogynistic whore and what that life cost me. I am still paying the installment note on that life. You can't pay for the past and it not effect the present, unless you're making ridiculous money. Well my blessings haven't reached that level yet. So my grind continues.
True happiness is a rare jewel. Its not something many will ever possess and when the few get it, they'll automatically see a difference in who they are. Physiologist Abraham Maslow's originally created his "Hierarchy of needs" as a five stage model it has since been adapted to eight. The top two spots of that model are 8. Transcendence needs - helping others to achieve self actualization. 7. Self-Actualization needs - realising personal potential, self-fulfillment, seeking personal growth and peak experiences.
I read only 10% of the human race reaches these stages. It stated many of us only reach stage four, five or six which is, 6. Aesthetic needs - appreciation and search for beauty, balance, form, etc. 5. Cognitive needs - knowledge, meaning, etc. 4. Esteem needs - self-esteem, achievement, mastery, independence, status, dominance, prestige, managerial responsibility, etc.